Best jewelry ideas for summer fashion for the whole family

Moms can leave themselves behind as they struggle to keep up with the kids and family obligations. No one feels particularly pretty when doing the dishes for the third time in a day. But that doesn't mean we want to forget our ourselves, and sometimes we can cherish our loved ones in ways that highlight the relationships without the chores.

Enter get name necklace. These personalized pieces allow you to express your deepest love and affection for those you care about in your own unique way. And it's not just regulated to words, although a poem or beautiful screed could be just what your loved one needs at the time--a well-placed inside joke, super-hero reference or song lyric could mean everything. But if you are more visually based, they can actually etch sketches on your preferred metal pieces, giving you artistic photo-realist reminders of those you hold dearest. The Sterling Silver Carrie Name Necklace is one of my absolute favorites.

Plus, it's not just about necklaces. Father's Day is just around the corner, and these etchings look amazing on dog tags for Dad. Not that necklaces can't be for guys. There are several models just perfect for the man in your life. A simple ball chain and sturdy vertical make the jewelry sleek and subtle. Not to mention you can rake in the deals this week and throughout the summer with various codes for holidays (three for Father's Day alone!), shipping rates, and discounts on bundled orders.

There is also a vast collection of rings for your birthday needs and more. I know I always need more gemstone jewelry for my birthday, and July's ruby is one of my favorites. Not to mention earrings, bracelets and full collections you can collect. Plus, they have free express shipping on certain orders, and they accept not only all major credit cards, but PayPal and other online payment, as well.

As I gear up for the summer gift-giving season, I know I'm taking my business to https://www.getnamenecklace.com/name-necklace. I love personalized gifts, and this is right up my alley.

Resolutions - 2019

In keeping with tradition, I will make 10 resolutions for myself and 5 with regard to my children and never look at them again until nearly 2020. 2018 was a very big, very stressful year. Most of the resolutions will probably remain the same and I'll just try to keep them this time.

10) Drink 4 glasses of water a day.

Same as last year. I didn't keep it up last year, and I think it would really help me feel better.

9) Go to the gym and/or run consistently 3-4 times a week.

I want to keep this one too. I think I can do it this year.

8) Stop biting my nails

Keeping it. Every year I try.

7) Do something at least once a week to help those in need, or resist politically.

I'll try to keep track of this with the activist check-in posts.

6) Fix three things about the house

There is lots to fix. Last year I did the deck and the roof and the gutters. This year, maybe the driveway, the toilets and the bathroom grout? Maybe the lawn? Don't know!

5) Make $90,000 and/or get a full-time position somewhere.

This is a huge stretch. HUGE. I'd be happy with $80K again. I'd be over the moon with $85. I'd also be happy if I could grab a full-time job at a place. But, of course, that means I have to apply.

4) Publish 50 pieces and teach a full course load all year.

I'm going to keep this one. I got to 45 pieces, and I think I can bump it up to 50.

3) Get my passport and Portuguese citizenship (if not for me, at least for the girls).

Since I didn't do this last year, I'm going to try for it again.

2) Start a vegetable garden and keep it alive.

Way easier said than done.

1) Read 12 books.

My reading has taken a nose dive in recent years. I'm averaging 2-3 books a year at this point. I'd like to bump that up. It means I'd be relaxing a little more, too, which is always good.



For my kids and I, I resolve the following:

5) Get them to stop fighting all the time.

Lol. Every year we try.

4) Sign them up for separate activities they might enjoy.

One is really into basketball, maybe dance for the other? Sign them up and take them to their practices, etc.

3) Save $10,000 more each for them.

I'll be happy if I can manage 5K each, but 10 is the goal.

2) Spend at least 10 minutes with them, doing something they want to do every day.

It's amazing how hard this is to do.

1) Have them do chores every day.

Chores every day, because people do chores. But not my kids. LOL not my kids. Going to try this again this year.

Resolutions Check-in, 2018

Each year I set 10 goals for me and five goals for my parenting / children in January. Then I never look at them again and forget all about them until the next year, when I surprise myself by looking back on them and seeing what I thought I could pull off that year. Let's see what I thought about 2018 and what actually happened.

In keeping with tradition, I will make 10 resolutions for myself and 5 with regard to my children and never look at them again until nearly 2019. Here goes nothing. I have a lot of big changes coming this year, so, unsure as to what this will look like.

10) Drink 4 glasses of water a day.

0. I mean, I tried it. But I really couldn't get more than a glass or two a day for a while there. I'm back on the four-glass train now, though. I'll probably try again this year.

9) Go to the gym and/or run consistently 3-4 times a week.

.5. I had a lot of medical stuff this year, meaning I couldn't exercise for long periods of time, like months. But, when you average out the times I did exercise, you get about twice a week, which I'm counting for half, given the year I had.

8) Stop biting my nails

0. Still doing this.

7) Actively work on local and state campaigns in swing states for the interim election.

.5 I did some stuff, but I did not actually work on a campaign. I ended up getting nervous about affiliating myself too strongly with individual candidates as opposed to covering them journalistically. But I was active this year in terms of resistance, and I intend to stay that way.

6) Buy that house and decorate it and keep it up as if it is my home.

1. I did this. I bought the house, decorated the house, and kept the house moderately clean all year. I washed and stained the deck, bought furniture, kept up the front bushes. Now I have to clean / fix the driveway, fix the lawn, replace the back wall and more. Joys of homeownership.

5) Make $75,000 and/or get a full-time position somewhere.

1. I did not get a full-time position somewhere but I didn't try very hard. I did make $78,000, which surpasses this goal.

4) Publish 50 pieces and teach a full course load all year.

.5. I published 45 pieces, and taught nearly double a full course load all year. This is so close.

3) Get my passport and Portuguese citizenship (if not for me, at least for the girls).

0. I can't believe I didn't do this. I started the paperwork, and stopped where I had to drag my family out to get our photos. I must do this.

2) Get through my medical stuff and come out the other side just fine.

1. I did this. I did all of this. I went through two major surgeries, and recoveries, and I'm through it. It was hard, and I almost backed out a couple of times, but it's done now.

1) Plan and execute this vow renewal for our 10-year anniversary.

1. We did this. August 4, 2018, we had a wedding to renew our vows and all our friends and family came, and we had a brief honeymoon, and it was amazing.


5.5 out of 10. I can't believe it. That's definitely a record. I never keep more than half my resolutions. Nicely done.



For my kids and I, I resolve the following:

5) Get them to stop fighting all the time.

0. The first six months of this year were so, so bad. They've greatly improved since then, thank goodness, but I'm not counting this one, because a year is 365 days, and even improved, they still fight at least once a day.

4) Homework and studies every day, even in summer and on weekends.

1. I am a mean mommy, and I made them do this.

3) Save $10,000 each for them.

1. They've each got a little more than $11,000 saved at this point. Well done..

2) Play a game with them every day.

0. I failed at this. Fail fail fail

1) Have them do chores every day.

0. Nope. They did chores SOMETIMES. But usually they spend so much time on homework that I let them play with whatever small time they have left.


2/5. We can do better.

4 Tips for a Less Stressful Divorce - s post

For most of us a divorce either begins with the slow realization that you no longer wish to be with your spouse – or a divorce can be an unforeseen, devastating bombshell that blows your emotions to hell and back.

But whether you are the divorcer or the divorcee, eventually you are going to have to face some disturbing facts and emotions about the bond that you thought was going to last forever.  But shame should not be one of them.

There were over 876,000 divorces in this country last year.  That’s one divorce every 36 seconds, 2,400 divorces every single day.  If this was your first marriage, you are part of the 41% of couples whose marriages failed.  If it’s a second marriage, the failure rate is 60%.  And for third marriages, it’s a whopping 73%.  If it’s your fourth marriage – it’s off the charts.

So divorce is not uncommon and you should not dwell too deeply on the whys and wherefores of your marriage’s collapse.  The sooner that you eschew denial and come to terms with the fact that it’s over; the sooner you can start putting your life, and the lives of your children if you have them, back on track.

Here are some tips to be mindful of once the angst subsides and you decide to get down to business.

Tip #1: Decide What You Want

Put the anger and emotions aside and think: what do I want out of this mess?  What are the pieces of my previous relationship that are really important to me?  Of course there are the assets, your home, the bank accounts, the investment portfolios, etc.  But most state laws mandate that those things are going to end up being math issues, generally in the 50-percentile range.

However, there may be less obvious keepsakes that you feel strongly about, and the main thing will be: keep those thoughts to yourself and your lawyer.  If your spouse and his/her lawyer discover a weakness for some marriage memento, they could use it as a wedge to get something out of you that is way more valuable.

Tip #2: Hire the Right Lawyer

If your divorce is consensual, maybe you won’t even need an attorney to individually represent you.  You and your spouse may be able to get by with a mediator who will assist you in conforming to state guidelines for a simple, amicable divorce.

But if you perceive even the slightest complications from your spouse; hire a lawyer immediately.  And the best way to find the right lawyer is to get a recommendation from a friend or family member, someone you trust. 

If that’s not possible, you’re going to have to do some serious research, because this attorney is going to be your closest partner in probably the most contentious procedure you will ever experience in your entire life – over the course of a year, or more.  Make sure you get the right person for the task.

Tip #3: Dealing with Children

Child custody after divorce can be allocated in a variety of ways, many of which are mandated by state laws.  Here's how Randall Kessler, an experienced divorce attorney at the Family Law Attorneys of Kessler & Solomiany, describes custody choices, "There are two major types of custody: legal and physical. It is possible for one parent to have sole legal and joint physical custody or vice versa, or for one parent to have both sole legal and physical custody."

You are probably not going to get full legal and physical custody over your children unless your spouse is a certified, raging maniac.  So try to stay calm and work out a plan that’s not only best for the children, but also best for you and your spouse.  You may not be able to live together any longer but you will have to partner in the raising these kids.  Full cooperation between parents is the right recipe for child rearing, whether they live together or not.

Tip #4: Take Your Time

There are angry urges, especially with the divorcee, to get this relationship over and done with as quickly as possible.  You never want to see that rotten, probably-cheating, divorcee ever again.  But rushing through the details of a divorce is not advisable for a lot of reasons. 

One of the main ones is money.  If you cram this divorce through and it turns out that some stipulations are just not working out for you and your spouse, you are going to have to file an appeal to set aside your divorce judgment – and that can be very expensive.  That’s why you need to take a breath, relax and slowly work through every stipulation of your divorce until you get it just right.

Freelance Numbers - Year 4

This is my third full year of freelancing, but since becoming a freelancer, I've also done adjunct (freelance) teaching at UF, and taught full-time so I'm going to show salary with that included and without it. Just like last year, it took up a bunch of my pitching and writing time, but also gave me a steady paycheck that I could (mostly) earn from home. And I get to teach students about journalism and how to do it! For me, this step was worth it.


This year, I made $77,866 total.
I made ~$54,000 of that from teaching at UF.
Therefore, I made ~$24,000 writing this year.

Last year, I made $65,630 total.

My lowest income month was February at $3,860 
(Last year's lowest income month was March at $2,663)

My highest income month was June at $10,660. 
(Last year it was July at $11,082)

On average I made $6,489 a month, which is $1,622 a week.

Last year I made $5,469 a month, which is nearly $1,367 a week.

Remember, though, I still have to do my taxes on ~$25,000 of this.

I'm happy with my professional decisions this year, and I recommend writers taking on teaching a college course or two if they have the time. It's great steady income. Of course, I swung probably too far the other way, but that's kind of what I do.


THE NUMBERS BEHIND THE MONEY:

We'll focus now on just the writing. To get that $24K, I published 45 pieces this year, which is up five from the year before when I published 40. The year before that I published 65 pieces, and the year I freelanced only, I published 80. For important comparison, that year I made just under $24K, which means I'm being paid on average twice as much per piece now.

My highest number published in a month was October with 8 pieces published.
My lowest number in a month was May with no pieces published.

On average, I published 3.3 pieces a month.


In terms of publications, I published in 12 different places, down from 14 last year, and 24 the year before that, including websites, newspapers and magazines.

The most pieces I published for one place? 7, down from 15 last year.


The lowest I wrote for was $75 for the local paper. 


The highest check for one piece I received this year was for $1,200--for my ghostwritten pieces. For a piece under my own byline, highest this year was $700.

On average, I made $600 a piece this year, same as last year, up from $440 a piece the year before and up from $300 the year before that. (This number skews high because I counted a few reprints and some blogging revenue in my yearly total, and also some private projects.) So, let's probably say I made about $450 a piece this year. (same as last year)


THE EFFORT BEHIND THE NUMBERS:

Let's talk pitches, rejections and acceptances. To publish my 40 pieces this year, I sent out 127 pitches this year, down from 165 pitches last year, 267 pitches the year before and 329 the year before that. I'm slowing down on writing to teach more. 

I was rejected outright 34 times. 
I was accepted 42 times (some are still in edits, and some were commissioned, which brings the published list to 40). 
I was ignored 51 times (which is a silent rejection, obviously).

So, my percentages work out like this:

Accepted: 33% of the time (same as last year)
Rejected: 27% of the time
Ignored: 40% of the time
Total Rejected: 70% of the time.

I was accepted 33 percent of the time, and rejected 67 percent of the time. In my four years doing this, my acceptance rate has only raised 3 percent. And my stuff is pretty okay. And usually when it's rejected somewhere, another place accepts it. THUS, IT IS NOT YOU OR ME, IT IS THE EDITOR.

Keep trying! Keep going! We can do this, freelancers. It is possible

Last year's complete numbers are here.

2016 complete numbers are here.

2015 complete numbers are here.