tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2621701638860930715.post2976270368123232886..comments2024-03-28T11:12:18.529-04:00Comments on parentwin: Women Stayparentwinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10056331784261915713noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2621701638860930715.post-14039963499967306492010-12-06T20:00:34.417-05:002010-12-06T20:00:34.417-05:00One of the best things my mother ever did for me, ...One of the best things my mother ever did for me, was to tell me that "If your father ever hit me, it would be the last he would ever see of me, or of you and your sister." I was so shocked that she would just up and leave my dad like that, but she said "There is no question about it. I'd be gone, and he knows it."<br /><br />Now, my dad is awesome, and there were never any threats in the house. Still, she made the point very clear to me that it was OK TO LEAVE, and that hitting was NEVER acceptable under any circumstances.<br /><br />While my mom's advice didn't prevent me from getting into an abusive relationship, it did help me get out.<br /><br />Teach your children. Repeat it often. G-d forbid they ever find themselves in that place, your words may come back to save their lives, like it did mine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2621701638860930715.post-47823913154408494682010-12-06T17:49:59.776-05:002010-12-06T17:49:59.776-05:00"Pretty words on a page do not dial phones&qu..."Pretty words on a page do not dial phones" That's such a true statement.<br /><br />"The readers here don't have to donate money, they don't have to hold signs in rallies to promote awareness, they don't have to change their Facebook pictures. They simply have to think" what a wonderful statement and one that I hope touches enough people to make the move towards what you have written. I'm going to quote this and share it.Papercut Dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464641582104501391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2621701638860930715.post-38525565713992296052010-12-06T17:43:26.937-05:002010-12-06T17:43:26.937-05:00Very touching post. It's so true that leaving ...Very touching post. It's so true that leaving is easier said than done. Heartbreaking. Thanks for taking part in one wee voice.KDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06602170011756124927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2621701638860930715.post-52122866062703591472010-12-06T17:39:28.557-05:002010-12-06T17:39:28.557-05:00Offer friendship and kindness, but don't be su...Offer friendship and kindness, but don't be surprised if they are refused. It's not like it is in the movies or on TV. It's not going to magically get better because someone comes in and makes a speech or talks about self esteem or brings over cookies once a week. Part of the control of an abuser is cutting on relationships. So if you reach out and the person rejects you, try not to be angry, try not to give up. And if they tell you they really can't see you, it's possible that they can't without risking violence. Let them know you will help them, and then really be there if they need you, but don't push too hard. You might make things worse.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2621701638860930715.post-11367055389471286422010-12-06T17:24:44.005-05:002010-12-06T17:24:44.005-05:00As an abused child and an abused wife, thank you f...As an abused child and an abused wife, thank you for writing this. I know how lucky I was to be able to get out of both situations.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com