In 2016, my largest goal is to regain control of my life. I do a lot of things, and in doing those things, I'm almost always frazzled, forgetting something, stressed out, late, not finishing what I need to finish because I overbooked, etc.
I have no sense of calm.
That's the main goal this year. Get it together, me. Be that whole, calm, successful, ambitious person you want to be. Happy and hardworking, but not scattered, rushing around putting out fires I started with disorganization and too much on my plate.
With that in mind, my ten resolutions for this year:
10) Drink four glasses of water a day.
I get headaches frequently, and am often tired and just not feeling well. It's because I do not drink any water at all. I sometimes actually feel like I don't deserve water. That ends this year.
9) Do some form of exercise every day.
Things happen and I won't be able to make it to the gym every day or even three times a week, I'm sure. I won't always have a kid-free 45 minutes to run. So, even if I get in ten sit-ups or push-ups a day, or stretching for a half hour before bed, that will be enough. Just some form of extra exercise (meaning I can't count my walk to school with the kids) each day.
8) Read and journal every day.
Same goes for this as exercise. Even if I read one sentence and write one sentence in my journal, that will count. Just do it. And no internet reading. Book reading. I can find time for a sentence. And hopefully time for more than that.
7) Take care of myself in some way every day.
As with the water, I often skip meals, or showers, or allow my nails to get gnarly. I'll be too tired to even brush my teeth, and this morning was the first time I'd washed my face in I don't want to tell you how long. This year, I still may not shower every day (who has the time?!), but I will perform basic upkeep to ensure my body is being taken care of to at least its basic necessary level.
6) Stop smoking.
I have to really do this.
5) Stop biting my nails.
Same. Enough is enough.
4) Make $40,000 this year.
I don't care how this happens. If I cobble it together with my freelancing, or manage a book thingie, or through teaching jobs, or if I get a full-time thing. Just, do this.
3) Publish 100 pieces.
I made it to 80 this year. I can do 100.
2) Get some sort of big project off the ground.
Could it be the stalled book? One of the novels I have kicking around in my head? Another big thing I've not thought of? Something big and different. Something I have to allow myself to be open to in order to achieve it. Something outside of my comfort zone.
1) Save $5,000 for each of my kids to start the college fund.
I don't know if that is possible. Let's try.
And I make five resolutions specifically with regard to my children each year. This year, I resolve the following:
5) To keep with the scheduling and strike system.
This is a system that helps me keep my emotions out of parenting. It works on a set of strikes and stars and seems to work, when I can put the time in and follow through.
4) Help them study.
I have trouble keeping up with what they are being tested on, and they don't really tell me all that well. Sometimes, as a result, they'll bring home Cs instead of As because we didn't know there was a test. I don't want them to get used to that.
3) Have them read every day.
This year, including weekends.
2) Get them to stop competing and fighting so viciously.
I have no idea how to achieve this, but it is my biggest battle each day.
1) Play a game with them every day.
Some days this will have to be I-spy in the car as we shuttle from activity to activity. But some days, let's really try for board games, puzzles or imagination games at home. We can do this.